Don's site is due to expire right after his Angel date. MO has activated it for 2 weeks so that we can remember Don on his day. JoAnn Baker sponsored it for the 1st year after it was created. I can not afford to sponsor it, but if there is anyone out there that can, PLEASE do. I would love for his site to stay available for Kelly, as she has told me that being able to come here and remember Don and read all the tributes and candles has helped her in her healing.
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Thank you and God Bless.
This memorial website was created in the memory of
beloved husband, son, brother and friend, who passed away on August 11, 2007 at the age of 39 in a tragic car accident in Belleville, Kansas while returning from a fun-filled week at the annual motorcycle rally in Sturgis, South Dakota.
Don was born on May 23, 1968 in Terrell, Texas to Marion and Ray Ashton.
Survived by his wife of 18 years: Kelly;
their precious miniature schnauzer: Abby;
Parents: Marion Poteete and Ray Ashton;
Maternal grandparents: Martha and Marion Day;
Brothers: Joey Ray Ashton and his wife Tianna; and Jimmy Ray Ashton
Nieces: Arianna, Ashlee, and Jessica
Parents-in-law: Bonnie Pleasant; Oscar and Marty Salley; Sister-in-law: Audrey Salem and her husband: Bill;
along with numerous aunts, uncles, cousins, and a multitude of friends.
He was pre-deceased by paternal grandparents Lonnie and Doris Ashton
This site was created as a place where Don's family and friends can come visit, write tributes, light candles, view memories, and to just remember Don.
His memory will remain in our hearts forever.
Whether you are passing through or you are a loved one, Don's family would love for you to light a candle (light and write however often you would like). If Don has touched your life in any way, write a tribute and share that memory. If you have any photos you would like to share, please upload them to his photo album. I will continue to add to Don's site, so visit again and as often as you please.
*** Please do not copy the graphics with Don's picture or name in them. These graphics were made especially for him and are very special to his family. If you see one you like, please email me and I'll give you the name of who made it.
This also goes for any poems that were written especially for him and any other poems that I have asked for permission to use.
How Long Will The Pain Last
How long will the pain last?"
a broken hearted mourner asked me.
"All the rest of your Life."
I have to answer truthfully.
We never quite forget. No matter how many years pass, we remember. The loss of a loved one is like a major operation. Part of us is removed, and we have a scar for the rest of our lives.
As years go by, we manage.
There are things to do, people to care for, tasks that
call for full attention.
But the pain is still there, not far below the surface. We see a face that looks familiar, hear a voice that echoes, see a photograph in someone's album, see a landscape that once we saw together, and it
seems as though a knife were in the wound again. But not
so painfully. And mixed with joy, too. Because remembering
a happy time is not all sorrow, it brings back happiness with it.
How long will the pain last?
All the rest of your life. But the thing to remember is that not only the pain will last, but the blessed memories as well.
Tears are proof of life. The more love, the more tears. If this be true, then how could we ever ask that the pain cease altogether. For then
the memory of love would go with it.
The pain of grief is the price we pay for love.
Letter From Heaven
To my dearest family,
Some things I'd like to say,
but first of all, I'd like to let you know
that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven.
Here I dwell with God above.
Here there is no more tears of sadness.
Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy
just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I am with you
every morning, noon, and night.
That day I had to leave you
when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and
hugged me and said,
"I welcome you.
It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dear family, they will be here later on.
I need you here badly, you're part of my plan.
There's so much we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things,
that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list,
was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night,
the day's chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you...
in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth
and all those loving years,
because you are only human,
they are bound to bring you tears.
Do not be afraid to cry,
it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers,
unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you
all God has planned.
If I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain,
though my life on earth is over,
I'm closer to you now,
than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you,
and many hills to climb,
but together we can do it
by taking it one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy
and I'd like it for you too, that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's
in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night...
"My day was not in vain."
And now I'm contented
that my life was worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way
I made someone smile.
So if you meet somebody who
is sad and feeling low;
just lend a hand to pick him up
as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street
and you've got me on your mind,
I'm walking in you footsteps
only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go...
from that body to be free.
Remember you're not going...
you're coming here to me.
Just a Breath Away
Look for me in springtime
As raindrops fill the air
In the splendor of the rainbow
You’ll find my presence there.
You will find me in the fragrance
Of April’s sweet perfume
Drifting through the clover
On a sultry day in June.
An August day will find me
Upon the summer breeze
On the distant sound of the thunder
In the gently swaying trees.
In the golden fields of harvest
Is where I can be found.
As autumn time approaches
And leaves comes tumbling down
In the wintertime when days are short
And chill is in the air
Just look into a moonlit night
You’ll find me lingering there.
When the setting sun has gone away
And shadows fill the night
When the cloak of darkness lifts its veil
I’ll be your morning light.
So when you feel discouraged
Get on your knees and pray
You’ll feel me there beside you
I’m just a breath away.
He Only Takes The Best
A heart of gold stopped beating,
Two shining eyes at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove to us
He only takes the best.
Little did we know that morning
The sorrow the day would bring.
The end was sudden, the shock severe.
We never knew that death was so near.
When days are sad and lonely,
And evening shadows fall,
We hear your voice and see your face.
Your sweet memory lingers on.
God knew you had to leave us,
But you didn't go alone,
For part of us went with you,
The day God called you home.
When Tomorrow Starts Without Me
When tomorrow starts without me,
and I'm not there to see,
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
all filled with tears for me.
I wish so much you wouldn't cry,
the way you did today,
While thinking of the many things
we didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me,
as much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too.
But when tomorrow starts without me,
please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name
and took me by the hand,
And said my place was ready, in heaven far above,
And that I'd have to leave behind
all those I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away
a tear fell from my eye,
For all my life, I'd always thought
I didn't want to die.
I had so much to live for,
So much left yet to do,
It seemed almost impossible
that I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays,
the good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared
and all the fun we had.
If I could relive yesterday,
just even for a while,
I'd say good-bye and kiss you,
and maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realized,
that this could never be,
For emptiness and memories
would take the place of me.
And when I thought of worldly things,
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did,
my heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through heaven's gates
I felt so much at home,
When God looked down and smiled at me,
from his great golden throne
"This is eternity, and all I've promised you.
Today your life on earth is past
but here life starts anew,
I promise no tomorrow
but today will always last,
And since each day's the same way
there's no longing for the past,
You have been so faithful, so trusting,
and so true
Though there were times you did
some things you knew you shouldn't do,
But you have been forgiven
and now at last you're free,
So won't you come and take my hand,
and share my life with me?"
So when tomorrow starts without me,
don’t think we're far apart,
For every time you think of me,
I'm right here in your heart.
The mention of his name
May bring tears to our eyes,
But it never fails to bring
Music to our ears.
If you are really our friend,
Let us hear
the beautiful music of his name.
It soothes our broken hearts
and sings love to our soul.
Please don't mourn for me I'm still here,
though you don't see I'm right by your
side each night and day
And within your heart I long to stay
My body is gone but I'm always near
I'm everything you feel, see or hear
My spirit is free, but I'll never depart
As long as you keep me alive in your heart
I'll never wander out of your sight
I'm the brightest star on a summer night
I'll never be beyond your reach
I'm the warm moist sand when you're at the beach
I'm the colorful leaves when fall comes around
And the pure white snow that blankets the ground
I'm the beautiful flowers of which you're so fond
The clear cool water in a quiet pond
I'm the first bright blossom you'll see in spring
The first warm raindrop that April will bring
I'm the first ray of light when the sun starts to shine
And you'll see that the face in the moon is mine
When you start thinking there's no one to love you
You can talk to me through the Lord above you
I'll whisper my answer through the leaves on the trees
And you'll feel my presence in the soft summer breeze
I'm the hot salty tears that flow when you weep
And the beautiful dreams that come while you sleep
I'm the smile you see on a baby's face
Just look for me, I'm everyplace...
Death is just another step
along life's changing way,
No more than just a gateway
to a new and better day.
And parting from our loved ones
is much easier to bear
When we know that they are waiting
for us to join them there.
For it is on the wings of death
that the living should takes flight
Into the Promiced Land of God
where there shall be no night.
(Helen Steiner Rice)
Right now I'm in a different place
And though we seem apart
I'm closer than I ever was
... I'm there inside your heart
I'm with you when you greet each day
And while the sun shines bright
I'm there to share the sunsets, too
... I'm with you every night
I'm with you when the times are good
To share a laugh or two,
And if a tear should start to fall
... I'll still be there for you
And when that day arrives
That we no longer are apart,
I'll smile and hold you close to me
... Forever in my heart
We little knew that morning,
God was going to call your name,
In life we loved you dearly,
in death we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you,
you did not go alone,
For part of us went with you,
the day God called you home.
You left us peaceful memories,
your love is still our guide,
And though we cannot see you,
you are always at our side.
Our family chain is broken,
and nothing seems the same,
But as God calls us one by one,
The chain will link again.
I Thought Of You
I thought of you with love today, but that is nothing new.
I thought about you yesterday, and the day befor that too.
I think of you in silence, I often say your name,
But all I have is memories and your picture in a frame.
Your memory is my keepsake, with which I'll never part.
God has you in his keeping, I have you in my heart.
I shed tears for what might have been, a million times I've cried.
If love alone could have saved you, you never would have died.
In life I loved you dearly, in death I love you still,
In my heart you hold a place no one could ever fill.
It broke my heart to lose you, but you didn't go alone
For part of me went with you, the day God took you home.
HIS JOURNEY'S JUST BEGUN
Don't think of him as gone away -
his journey's just begun,
life holds so many facets -
this earth is only one.
Just think of him as resting
from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years.
Think how he must be wishing
that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away.
And think of him as living
In the hearts of those he touched
For nothing loved is ever lost -
And he was loved so much.
The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.
He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.
Sadly missed along life's way,
Quietly remembered every day.
No longer in our life to share,
But in our hearts he's always there.
Footprints In The Sand
Author: Mary Stevenson
One night a man had a dream.
He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord.
Across the sky flashed scenes from his life.
For each scene, he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand;
One belonging to him, and the other to the Lord.
When the last scene of his life flashed before him,
He looked back at the footprints in the sand.
He noticed that many times along the path of his life,
there was only one set of footprints.
He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest
And saddest times in his life.
This really bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it.
"Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you,
you'd walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times
in my life there is only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why, when I needed you most, you would leave me."
The Lord replied, "My precious, precious child,
I love you and I would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one
set of footprints in the sand,
it was then that I carried you."
I have an angel on my shoulder
He whispers in my ear.
His voice is soft and gentle
And no one else can hear.
When I'm tired and lonely
It's comfort that he brings.
When I'm filled with happiness
I hear his laughter ring.
My angel's very close to me.
I even know his name.
And though I cannot see him
I love him just the same.
He now has no more suffering
And gone is all the pain.
I believe with all my heart
We will someday meet again.
An angel's job is taxing
It's as hard as it can be.
I hope he doesn't get too tired
Looking after me.
Yes, my angel's with me
from morning til the night.
I know as long as he is here
Everything will be alright.
So when my days are over
I'll not pass in fear.
I know my angel's waiting
To lead me home up there.
Truly An Angel
An Angel is what he is to me
That's what he was truly meant to be.
As his time on earth has past
His memory will always last.
He was put to the ultimate test
Now it's time for him to rest.
So as he goes
Heaven only knows.
That he was more
Than you or me.
Because an Angel is what
He was truly meant to be.
If Teardrops Were a Stairway...
If we had one lifetime wish
One dream that could come true
We'd pray to God so hard
For yesterday and you.
The things we feel so deeply
Are the hardest things to say.
But we your family, love you
In a very special way.
They say memories are golden
Well maybe that is true.
But we never wanted memories,
We only wanted you.
If teardrops were a stairway
And heartaches made a lane,
We'd walk a path to heaven
And bring you back again.
A thousand times we've cried.
If our love could have saved you
You never would have died.
An Angel kissed my tears away today
when I was feeling sad
I wasn't feeling quite myself
my day had been so bad
I felt a warmth brush by me
that quickly dried my tears
A gentle, kind, and loving touch
that seemed to hold me near
Immediately I felt so much better
and the day seened brighter too
I guess that's just the way you feel
when an Angel comforts you.
A Special Angel
There's a special angel in Heaven
That is a part of me.
It is not where I wanted him,
But where God wanted him to be.
He was here just a moment,
Like a night time shooting star.
And though he is in Heaven
He isn't very far.
He touched the hearts of many,
Like only an angel can do.
I would've held him every minute,
If the end I only knew.
So I send this special message
To Heaven up above.
Please take care of my angel,
And send him all my love.
My Mom Is A Survivor
My Mom is a survivor,
or so I've heard it said.
But I can hear her crying at night
when all others are in bed.
I watch her lay awake at night
and go to hold her hand.
She doesn't know I'm with her
to help her understand.
But like the sands on the beach
that never wash away...
I watch over my surviving mom,
who thinks of me each day.
She wears a smile for others...
a smile of disguise!
But through Heaven's door I see
tears flowing from her eyes.
My mom tries to cope with death
to keep my memory alive.
But anyone who knows her knows
it is her way to survive.
As I watch over my surviving mom
through Heaven's open door...
I try to tell her that angels
protect me forevermore.
I know that doesn't help her...
or ease the burden she bears.
So if you get a chance, go visit her...
and show her that you care.
For no matter what she says...
no matter what she feels.
My surviving mom has a broken heart
that time won't ever heal.
An Angel Hug
Angels are ever all around us
And with love they do surround us.
When my heart is sore in need,
The Angels come my soul to feed.
They come to me from up above
and sing in whispers of Love.
When in my heart I feel a tug
I know that it's an Angels' hug.